One of the hardest act that one can do is to forgive; for to have to forgive must mean one has been wronged. God reminds us that even He forgives but that Man has too much pride. However, pride can only be one side in the story of forgiving, for to be too proud to forgive one must feel a sense of being better and the one in the right. The question of who is really right then is secondary.
We then come to the question of justice. In consideration of events that have taken place, what occurred according to its place in the accepted norms of this life to give each man what is rightful to him? If one's rights has been trespassed, should not one have every right not to forgive?
Yes.
However,it's better for you, your soul and your redemption in the hereafter that you should.And, we know, despite whatever our mind and heart tells us ( which means that your mind is going against your mind, that is to assume that knowing occurs only in the mind)that this is true.
Yet the fact that God asks us to forgive means that we are capable of forgiving. Hence why do we find it so hard to do so? In fact, in putting forth this question, why do we find it hard to do what other God-blessed noble acts there can be? Which part of us makes the decision on whether we should forgive and do we base this on emotion or what is the best for our salvation in this world and/or the hereafter?
I cannot but realise how intriguing the emotional/rational relationship is and how it manifests itself in our life. In the end, if its what you do that matters and will be accounted for,then what you felt and thought are only means.
It follows on that any actions that we carry out brings consequences to those around us and hence our actions are never truly free. How then can we use personal emotions as the only scale to weigh in our reactions to any injustice that might have been borne unto us?
At the end of it all we can only find solace in the fact that God judges us only on what we do.

Reflections

Can one ever be an outside observer of this life and be a part of it at the same time? Well, you can argue that cognitively one can for therein lies the role of metacognition where one thinks of one's thoughts. Maybe if we all metacognize, the world will be a more rational place. Then again, what would be the standards one measures by and how is your view fairer than mine? In the end too when one detaches oneself from life personal, one detaches from the baggage of emotion; which is it not the reason why life is more bearable sometimes is it not? Why does a mother want to go through childbirth again, knowing the pain of having done so before and really why does one sacrifice one's dreams to be with one's partner if there is not the notion of love and in the severest 'rationalisation' ; romance? The fact of the matter is we are all put here by God to go through the same motions in different ways. If life is so, why is each experience still novel that we may need to struggle through them when many others have gone through the same and thus are models of how we should act as are the guidance one finds in the Quran? Is God trying to tell us that what is most important is doing the right thing and that we should get over this humdrum and drama of life? After all whatever will happen is going to happen and the question is how will you handle it that you will not only end well but go through it well? I guess the point is that it is hardly about you and eveything about you.